Anger can be a debilitating emotion. It can tear down relationships with friends and family in seconds, be almost impossible to control without the right skills, and be a thing of strife in a woman’s life. It can induce someone to violent assault in one moment, and cause a lifetime of regret in the next. Anger is a difficult emotion to understand, and to be able to control. At Brookhaven Retreat, LLC we are encouraged to constructively use our anger. We understand that it is a part of our human experience on this earth to feel anger, and to be angry at times. But there is a way to be constructive with our anger not only for ourselves, but for those to whom our anger is directed, as well.
There are so many ways that we can deal with anger, but only one way that will allow us to reasonably manage that anger and redirect it in a way that is helpful and constructive. We know that violence cannot be the answer to managing our anger, and that we need to strive to react in a more wholesome way. At Brookhaven Retreat, it is vital for clients, and staff as well, to learn to clearly communicate all emotions—sadness, despair, joy, anger—in a way that is understandable for others. This aids the woman feeling the emotion, as well as the person toward whom the emotion is being expressed. It is also a way to open up discussion between the two about what occurred to cause such a strong emotion. It is a hard skill to learn, but that is what Brookhaven Retreat is for.
All emotions, especially anger, need to be mindfully experienced, letting them in without judgment and letting them then flow away from us if necessary. It is important to realize that all emotions are valid, and need to be assessed. But some are not as constructive as others, and therefore may be better to let go, or to redirect the focus on another emotion.
Realizing that anger, and other difficult emotions, are a part of our natural experience as human beings plays a large role in being able to manage it. Brookhaven Retreat encourages all women to mindfully experience these emotions and be able to communicate them effectively.