As humans, we live in a perpetual state of want. At least I do. I want more of this and less of that. I want to be stronger, smarter, and more energetic. I especially want to have more self-control because I believe it will improve my human experience.
I am thankful not to have battled substance addiction at any point in my life. But at the same time, I realize other addictions can and have interrupted my focus on what was truly important to me.
But this is not uncommon. Look around and you’ll see a myriad of addictions chipping away at people, who can find themselves addicted to acquiring things, addicted to their work, their devices, even people and circumstances. Managing an addictive mentality isn’t comfortable, fun or easy. Deep down, we all want to be healthy and unencumbered. No one wants to be a slave to any person, place or thing, but sometimes we don’t believe we have a choice.
Of course, that isn’t true. We always have a choice, but first we must exercise that choice, even if it feels equally uncomfortable to challenge ourselves in that way. Daily affirmations can help.
When I think of affirmations, author Louise Hay snaps to mind as one of the pioneers of this practice that involves self-talk. When you talk to yourself, what do you say? Are you judgmental or kind? Affirmations are important because our thoughts help manifest our reality.
Hay has written many books on the subject, such as I Can Do It®: How to Use Affirmations to Change Your Life, about how optimism, mindfulness and encouraging self-talk can help heal the body of disease, lift our spirits from depression, reduce stress and anxiety, and improve every aspect of life.
Of course, the opposite is true of negative self-talk. Negative thoughts attract the things, feelings, people, situations and ill health that we don’t want. Identifying negative self-talk is the first step in reversing our approach. You have to listen to yourself and pay attention to what you’re thinking.
Repeating positive affirmations throughout your day can make all the difference and eventually it becomes a habit. Start the day with a deep breath of gratitude. If you’re awake and breathing, you’re off to a great start! Once you get out of bed, of course, the potential for negativity can begin by something as simple as stubbing your toe, to set you on the wrong course. But even that can be healed with affirmations. Your aching toe might even inspire an affirmation such as, “Today can only get better.”
It’s one thing to adopt affirmations from a book, which can work perfectly well, but the exercise of creating your own is more likely to stimulate the conviction necessary for the concepts to ring true for you.
The late, great Dr. Wayne Dyer, known for saying, “Attitude is everything, so pick a good one,” wrote the book, You’ll See It When You Believe It. In other words, if you don’t believe circumstances can change, they may not. And even if they do, you probably won’t recognize them because your belief muscles are not in use. The more specific your affirmations are to you and what you want, the more effective they will be, and the easier it will be for you to recognize the results.
Think of the aspects of your life you’d like to change and remember to think positive. For instance, rather than bullying yourself into being a better person, try these suggestions.
Relationships. This is easily a top-10 wish for many people, to have more love in their lives, in their families and in the world. A strong affirmation for inviting more love in your life starts with the love and appreciation you have of yourself. I wrote a song once using the affirmation, “I love everyone and everyone loves me.” But you might prefer the following.
I am a loving person who loves myself and deserves love from others.
Career. Few people are exactly where they want to be. We strive to be better and sometimes we fixate on the fact that we’re not good enough or aren’t yet as successful as we want to be. Instead of belittling what you already are and the things you have done so far, celebrate them and have full confidence that you’re on the right path to achieving even more. If you have already reached a high level of success, you might say, “I am enough.” You may also choose something more motivating.
I am proud of what I have achieved and every day I work to reach my potential.
Money. Who doesn’t want more? Even the wealthiest people in the world are in a constant state of generating more wealth. If you don’t have enough, know that you deserve it and that eventually you will enjoy more prosperity. This one is very simple. Act as if you already have everything you want.
I am unlimited in the wealth and abundance I am attracting.
Health. As an able-bodied, healthy person, no matter your age, you have everything, or at least the potential to attract all the components of a happy life. However, many people take their health for granted until something goes wrong. It’s crucial to understand that your physical health is in direct correlation with your mental health. Releasing anger, letting go of resentment, not allowing jealousy or greed into your awareness, are all completely necessary in the quest for health. Louise Hay’s book, Heal Your Body, is like a map for understanding how your mind and body connect to create your particular state of health or illness. Try this affirmation, or come up with one more specific to your current state. But whatever you decide on, be sure to say it every day, no matter how your day begins.
Every cell in my body is healthy, happy and disease-free.