From what to expect in a social interaction, to what to expect throughout recovery, what we anticipate can impact how we react in the first place.
When we decide to journey to recovery our minds can jump to conclusions, painting a picture of a possible outcome. This picture can give us false expectations and make it difficult for the real process to happen naturally.
I am a very visual person, and visualizing my goals helps me achieve them, but sometimes my visualizations can cause stress. If things aren’t going as I had imagined sometimes I cause myself added stress, when in reality nothing is off schedule, just my imagined perfection. Recovery is even more difficult to visualize. Even if the end result seems clear, the steps along the way and the ups and downs that follow from the day you chose recovery.
Expectations and visualization both do their part to help move us forward in balance, but how do we achieve that balance? What do we do in the now? At Brookhaven Retreat®, LLC we utilize a skill called radical acceptance. Before we can move through recovery, even start that journey; we must accept the realities of the present. Being grounded in how things actually are helps keep the future in check, and our expectations in line with reality.