During every episode of Orange is the New Black (Netflix), my eyes open a little wider to one thing or another about the somewhat painful process of finding one’s self. What I admire about the show produced by Jenji Kohan (also the creator of Weeds on Showtime) is how the female characters from the book by Piper Kerman, are constantly digging in the soil of circumstance to find their authentic selves and ultimately, learn how to honor their truths.
Of course, truth comes in many varieties. Whether they’re alcoholics, murderers, bank robbers, drug dealers or addicts in desperate need of drug rehab---they all deal with grief, and they all struggle to figure out what makes them happy without breaking the law. And do I mean struggle. Many of them never separate themselves from self-sabotaging, destructive behavior.
Unfortunately, these women have hit an almost paralyzing stumbling (cell) block to find the impetus to discover and define the true self. They’re often buried underneath a crisis-riddled childhood, a dysfunctional need to please or other dependency or codependency, etc.
The “false self” is born when the authentic self (your core rather than the “you” defined by others) is buried by the pain of the past. But there are also mental health issues that hide the authentic self behind walls of depression, anxiety and mood swings.
According to Psychology Today, borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a serious mental illness characterized by pervasive instability in moods, interpersonal relationships, self-image, and behavior. This instability often disrupts family and work life, long-term planning, and the individual's sense of identity.
Psychology Today also reports that “researchers believe that BPD results from a combination of individual vulnerability to environmental stress, neglect, or abuse as young children, and a series of events that trigger the onset of the disorder as young adults.”
BPD is less well known than schizophrenia or bipolar disorder, but more common. In fact, 2 percent of adults, mostly young women, are affected. Because of self-injury and suicide attempts, as well as completed suicide, patients need extensive mental health services.
With treatment at Brookhaven Retreat ® LLC, a unique residential treatment facility exclusively for women with mental health and/or substance abuse issues, in Seymour, TN, conditions may improve. Those who need help may benefit from The Lily Program ®, a 90-day program for women offered exclusively at Brookhaven Retreat. There is also an Aftercare program to help bridge the gap between the completion of the program and life beyond the program, designed to guide women on the path for creating a life worth living to last their whole lives.