Sometimes our self worth feels tied in to the attention and recognition we receive. If we are volatile or struggling with addiction, depression, or grief, we can be extremely susceptible to self-doubt and a skewed perception of reality. Other’s actions do not define us, and seeking professional help and support is a first step. Learning healthy and nurturing life skills is also important. Being mindful of your emotional and physical needs, and paying attention to make sure your needs are met, can help get you the positive feedback and attention that you need: by creating it within yourself.
Throughout our lives there are moments of recognition and attention. Some kinds of attention we shy away from and some we embrace or look forward to. Positive attention can be when you get to give a presentation at work, when you host or attend social events, and celebrate momentous occasions. There are also times that we don’t get the attention when we need. Times where negative attention or a lack of attention are present may be when you are talking and someone interrupts or ignores you, when your emotional needs are not being met in a relationship, when you are bullied or ostracized, or when a personal event or occasion is forgotten. The lack of recognition and or the presence of unwelcomed attention can be challenging even for those not struggling with mental health related illnesses, but with depression or the insecurities of addiction, not getting the right kinds of attention may be a trigger that helps propagate false senses of reality.
Some things that can help you tether yourself in times of doubt are: self-awareness and self-care. Self-awareness is in part, knowing what you need and what you are experiencing while self-care is the process of meeting those needs. Take time to day to focus your attention and the spotlight on yourself. To validate yourself through awareness and care, and to seek the physical and emotional things that you need.