When it comes to tabloids and news headlines, most savvy readers know how to tell the truth from a hoax. I usually have a feeling in my gut, or a sense of skepticism when I first read something that I’m not sure is true. You cannot believe everything that is typed up, and fact checking multiple sources is usually helpful at tracking down the truth. The same can be said about what we believe about ourselves.
When I see something that looks outrageous on a news sight or on social media online, I look up the sources, or Google the article to find out if it is accurate. If I hear claims about sales or products, I check with the better business bureau or use crowd-voting sites, like yelp, to read reviews. However, when someone says something hurtful or traumatic to me, my first instinct is to believe it wholeheartedly. How outrageous is it that I will check the very restaurant I eat at, but will not look for other sources on lies about myself. I remember a time when I was little and a bully at school tried to rewrite my whole identity, it took me a very long time to realize that those lies where not part of my reality. Trauma and abuse can make us susceptible to accepting false realities. Depression and mental illness paired with the stress of a crisis can make it difficult to know what is really going on.
Take time to fact check your reality. In the recovery world we call this radical acceptance, but often times this is taking an inventory of reality. Be mindful of what your reality really is, check your facts and seek multiple perspectives. Do not let your stress and fear make you susceptible to falsehoods or lies about yourself or your reality. You are not alone in recovery, and there is value in you. Take a moment to cherish these simple truths and re-center your perspective.