Here is a list of 13 things you should stay away from to be mentally strong. Now no one is perfect and there may be some things you may need to work on. We are all human and make mistakes. This is how we learn from the day we are born.
Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves
Feeling sorry for yourself is not going to get you anywhere. You are the change that needs to be made. Identify the problem or mistake made and then work to make decisions on how to correct it.
Give Away Their Power
You are the only person that has power over your mind and body. This is one part of yourself you can be selfish about. Do not let anyone control you with his or her words or emotions. You are your own person.
Shy Away from Change
Change is not always a bad thing. As we grow we change many things. We change views of the world, change emotionally, change physically and yes many bad hairstyles. If you were not meant to make changes in your life you would not have been given a voice or the option of free will.
Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control
There are many things that are out of our control such as how much the water company charges you per gallon, if the store has the item you want in stock or how another person feels about you. You can only make changes in your own life and if you are lucky teach someone something about their life on the way. Instead of thinking about the things that are out of your control, think about what changes you can make in your life to get the result that you want.
Worry About Pleasing Everyone
People are going to think what they want to. As long as you are satisfied about yourself and feel good about yourself you are good. You need to make sure you have all of your needs first before you can think about taking care of someone else. If you question if you can do this, I suggest starting out with a plant for 6 months and see if you can keep it alive. The next step is a pet for a year.
Fear Taking Calculated Risks
If everyone played it safe in their life we would not have a lot of things we take advantage of in our everyday life. Now I am not saying to jump out of a plane or off a bridge because everyone else is. I am talking about the smaller risks. You should not be afraid to change your hair color, go back to school, make a change in your wardrobe, or adopt a pet.
Dwell on the Past
This is where a lot of people tend to get stuck. The one thing you should always remember is the past is in the past. There are no changes that you can make to any decisions in the past. You can make changes to your behavior or actions for the future and the present.
Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over
Some of us are prone to do this because we do not change our behaviors. The key to making this change is identifying what prompts you to make the same decision even if the result is going to be the same as last time. This is a behavior that we can change.
Resent Other People’s Success
We should not resent other people that are successful in what they do. These are the people that we need to look up to. These should be our role models so we can strive the do our personal best. Being the best you can be is a success in itself.
Give Up After the Failure
We all fall down and make mistakes that result in failure. To err is to be human. Just think about all the times in your life that you have not given up after the first try. You would never walk, speak, ride a bike, solve problems, find someone you love, or drive.
Fear Alone Time
If you cannot spend time with yourself, how do you expect others to spend time with you? You should be happy with yourself as you are. If there are changes that need to be made, make the decision to make those changes in your life and stick with them.
Feel the World Owes Them Anything
Some people are born with things given to them. The average everyday person has to work for what they want. Working to get what you want builds character and will make you a stronger person for it. You will not take the things you have worked for for granted. You know what life is like without those things so you will hold on to them longer and take better care of them whether they are accomplishments, loved ones, or possessions.
They Don’t Expect Immediate Results
This is an example of how we all need to develop patience. The end result may take minutes, hours, days, weeks, months or years. In this day and age we have all come to expect instantaneous gratification, however this is not the case with our life and life decisions. You may choose to buy a house and redecorate. When we make decisions like this we have to realize that there can be complications or other decisions that we need to make along the way that may effect when we get our final result. Sometimes we get a result that was not anticipated and we have to try again.