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Brookhaven Retreat Blog - For inspiration, growth & a fresh perspective.

Unlocking Mental Health—Gardening

A Girl and Her Father

A Girl and Her Father

Soup au Pistou

Soup au Pistou

Contemplation

Sore Throat Solutions

Can You Give Us A Twirl?

Broccolini Flounder Bake

The Reality of Sexual Assault

World Kindness Day

World Kindness Day

How to Stock Your Pantry: The Essentials

How to Stock Your Pantry: The Essentials

National Pomegranate Month

National Pomegranate Month

More Than Cute

Mental Health Wellness Week

Pineapple Chicken Stir-Fry with Black Bean Sauce

Pineapple Chicken Stir-Fry with Black Bean Sauce

Addicted to Food

Taylor Swift and Anxiety

Taylor Swift and Anxiety

Essential Kitchen Equipment: Back to the Basics

Adele and the Reality of Growing Older

Maureen O’Hara—A Legacy

Maureen O’Hara—A Legacy

What Is Self Care?

Black Lentil Beet Salad

Black Lentil Beet Salad

Helping One Another

Helping One Another

Mental Illness Awareness

Women, You ARE Beautiful!

Women, You ARE Beautiful!

Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Unconditional Worth

Unconditional Worth

Empowering or Disheartening?

Pappardelle with Roasted Winter Squash, Arugula, and Pine Nuts

Pappardelle with Roasted Winter Squash, Arugula, and Pine Nuts

Coping with Anger

Art in the News

Sweet Potato Salad

Sweet Potato Salad

Hurricane Prep

Hurricane Prep

Fashion Trends: The Knit Cap

Fashion Trends: The Knit Cap

Alone Time

Chicken with Artichoke-Sun-Dried Tomato Pesto

The Arms of Irony

Focus the Mind, Reap the Rewards

Focus the Mind, Reap the Rewards

Chocolate Avocado Cookies

The Necessity of Silence

The Necessity of Silence

Recovery

Recovery

Service with Style

Vietnamese Grilled Steak with Portobellos and Mint-Cilantro Mojo

Family Illness And The Dog

The Social Media Phenomenon

Top 10 Vegetarian Proteins

Know Who You Are

The Body and Soul - 5 Ways to Relax

Dr. Wayne Dyer Lives On

Toasted Ciabatta with Shrimp, Tarragon, and Arugula

Music—It’s More Than Noise

Living Alone After Divorce

Wednesday, 18 March 2015 00:00  by Lori R.

I’m not sure why people think it’s nice to tell me, “You’ll find someone someday. It will be okay.” Even though society has come a long way in accepting variations in relationships, being alone still seems to imply there is something wrong with you. Four years after my divorce I am plenty comfortable saying that I am in no hurry to remarry. I didn’t always feel that way, though!

In the beginning I was tremendously lonely. I had never lived alone before. I didn’t know what to do with myself! The nighttime hours were the worst and I had a lot of difficulty sleeping. I could have accomplished an awful lot of cleaning and organizing but my depression took away my motivation. At just over 40 years old, I felt a sense of desperation to find a relationship so I wouldn’t end up alone for the “rest of my life.”

In desperation we usually make poor choices. After a time I rediscovered my likes and who I am, and I don’t plan to compromise that with a hastily chosen significant other who has the power to mold my co-dependent mind into someone new. I am enjoying my independence, my accomplishments, and making a meal of just brussel sprouts if I feel like it.

That’s not to say I never feel lonely, but I do know how to cope with the feeling. I have goals, art projects, friends, books, and journals to provide distraction and my pets to provide company. Now if I could just stop coddling my 19 year old son… *sigh.* One step at a time.

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